Why doesn't he want me?

This is how he is. You can't change people. Noone will become the perfect image you have for a man. Life sicks. All we can do is try to adapt and make smaller changes.The alcohol may do this to him. He sounds like an alcoholic. Pull a wire from the tv and tell him it's broken. See what he does. If this works then 4 times a month break the tv. 4 better days are better than none. wear something sexy too, or walk around in loose clothing.